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Internet Dating Do's and Don'ts

  • By: Amy Schoen

  • Here is some Internet dating etiquette to help you along the way with any relationship questions you may have. With so many choices to make in life, it never hurts to receive advice from a relationship coach to help guide you through the various online dating websites.

    Just as being honest with your resume and cover letter is important when applying for a job through an online job bank, so it is with online dating websites and the profile you post. You want to market yourself to help make your profile stand out from the others.

    Below are some tips for helping you build an effective profile on the Internet and successful internet dating experiences:

    1. About your picture on the online dating website
    • Do look friendly and approachable.
    • Do put the best picture possible on your profile.
    • Don't put just any mug shot of you on your site.
    • Don't be with other people. Dog, cat and kids are okay!

    2. About your profile on the site
    • Do include what's unique about you and why someone may want to go out with you.
    • Do describe your values in the body of the profile. What's fulfilling for you? What do you treasure?
    • Do try to be a descriptive as possible so the reader will experience what you do. (Help them see, smell and hear the beach) Put in a come play with me quality!
    • Don't put stuff in your profile that is not putting your best foot forward.
    • Don't lie! Be honest and upbeat. That doesn't mean you have to tell all your faults!

    3. Contacting each other
    • Do go after quality and not quantity!
    • Do find something that you connect to. A cause or a passion.
    • Do email back and forth a couple of times to get a sense of a person: their way of thinking and how they express themselves.
    • Don't be a pen pal! If the person is unwilling to talk on the phone, stop the interchange.
    • Do talk on the phone to gain further rapport.
    • Do trust your intuition. If something doesn't feel right, don't pursue any further.
    • Don't talk on the phone for weeks without making plans to get together.

    4. Meeting each other
    • Do give each other cell phone numbers in case something happens on your way to the meeting.
    • Do meet in a public place for coffee during the day, if possible
    • Do "be yourself".
    • Don't run away if the person doesn't look like what you thought.
    • Don't give out too much information about yourself before you know the person better.
    • Some important dating advice for women: Don't expect the man to pay. Be prepared to pay your share. It will be a nice surprise if he does offer to pay the tab.
    • Do give a nice person a second chance. Chemistry can develop over time.

    5. Following up
    • Do be honest about your level of interest in the person. They may know someone else you'd like to meet.
    • Do thank the person for a nice time and if someone paid.
    • Don't say you'll call and not call!
    • Don't wait a month to call the woman if you liked her. She may have moved onto her next prospect.

    Whether you've just recently started dating or you're an experienced single, the above dating tips can benefit you as you refine your online dating profile. When in doubt, remember to consult with a close friend or a relationship coach with any relationship questions you may have.

    Good luck in your search!

    Copyright © 2007 Heartmind Connection, LLC
    Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC, certified professional life coach and dating-relationship expert, helps singles to attract the right romantic relationship into their lives, is the author of “Motivated to Marry™-Now There is a Better Method for Dating and Relationships!” and speaks nationally to groups on dating and relationships. For dating tips for men and women, subscribe to her monthly ezine and teleclasses at: