1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN?
You’ll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he’ll call. If
not, next. You don’t have time for anyone that doesn’t have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL? There’s only one answer to
this question: Because he didn’t want to!!! What you’re really asking is, “Why
didn’t you want to call me?” Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but
you shouldn’t be sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots
of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don’t be so quick to put all
your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it’s a big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU?
If he wanted you to know where he was, he’d tell you. What you’re
really asking is, “Where you with another female that you like better than
me?” Your insecurity is showing, my dear. If anything, he should be wondering
where you were.
4. I LOVE YOU (FIRST) - You’re saying it in the hopes
that he’ll say it back, but what if he doesn’t? You’ll be devastated and
probably feel foolish. Saying “I love you” is not going to speed things up if
he’s not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to
say it when he’s ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH
HER? As long as he’s not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past is
gone. Don’t torture yourself (and him) with these thoughts. In this case,
ignorance really is bliss.
6. I’M PREGNANT.
In the 21st century, with all the birth control choices available, there is no
excuse for becoming pregnant, unless you want to be. You should be using
something and he should use a condom, every time.
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that’s your
attitude. Guys want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that’s
constantly worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you
where it’s going. If it’s going somewhere, you’ll know it. If it’s not, you’ll
know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, “Go to
the principal’s office”. Guys know it’s not going to be a fun conversation, so
they’re already on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just
casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don’t try to talk to
him when he’s tired, stressed or trying to watch tv!
9. I HATE YOU! Even if you do, it’s totally uncalled
for and un-lady like. If there’s an issue, be mature enough to discuss it when
you’re calm. If he’s breaking up with you, reacting with anger may make you
feel better temporarily, but it’s best to remain calm and act unfazed. He’ll
wonder why you’re so cool about it and that may make him re-think his
decision. Always be pleasant during a break up. Do you want to be known as the
girl that goes psycho if someone breaks up with her?? I didn’t think so.
10. I DON’T TRUST YOU.
What you’re actually saying is, “You need to step
up your game, because I can see you’re up to something.” If he is up to
something, he’ll just become even sneakier. Better to think smart and act
dumb-it’ll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.