First Date Tips
Need a few first date dating tips? Even the seasoned dating pros
need a few first date tips to get the ball rolling smoothly. There are
lots of free dating sites that offer online dating tips and online dating
information, but not many that address the issue of what to do when you
actually meet for that first date.
First of all, being nervous is
normal. Even if your date seems calm and collected, chances are they are
secretly as nervous as you are. That’s good. That’s what makes a first
date exciting! So, still a little worried about what you should do, where
you should go, or how should you act on a first date? Here are a few first
date tips that are guaranteed to go over better than a standard flower
gift that you just plucked off the side of the road.
Make sue you take the time to think the whole night
through. “Winging it” is never a good plan. It tells your date that you
didn’t care enough about this first date to make it worth your while.
The standard 2 hour movie is not a good way to get acquainted. You
need to talk face to face without an on-screen explosion getting in the
way. A dinner is always nice, but can leave one feeling like they have to
be a chatter-box in order to keep the dialogue up. The best solution is a
low-stress daytime meeting (like a lunch or coffee). This way, you can
both make it a short commitment and you can both get acquainted in a very
“non-date” atmosphere. Plus, you both get to eat! Check the internet to
find some local café’s or lunch restaurants.
Want to get more
creative? Try the zoo for a first date. Sound too weird? Think about it.
You get to stroll around at a leisurely pace, you get to look and talk
about a lot of fascinating things around you (the animals). This will give
you lots to talk about instead of mindless chatter or more serious
discussions like, “What happened to your last relationship.” Plus, you can
leave anytime you like, so there’s no pressure to “ride out” the date if
you both don’t like it.
Not a zoo person? No problem. Get creative
and find events or locations that have enough going on to stimulate
conversation. That’s the most important thing. Don’t worry so much about
trying to “entertain” on your fist date, worry about creating an
atmosphere where you both can simply talk.
Wear clothes that make you feel good.
You want to dress
to impress, but above all BE YOURSELF. You don’t need to wear a suit if
you don’t wear one on a regular basis, and you don’t need to dress “cheap”
in order to get some attraction. Your date is sizing you up on what may be
the only time you meet, so make sure your clothes reflect who you really
Keeping that in mind, don’t show up in a tank top and sandals
(unless you’re going to the beach, of course!). Make sure your clothes are
clean, neat, and pressed (this means no holes or stains). New clothes can
help, but again, don’t try so hard to impress your date, unnatural attire
will stick out like a sore thumb.
Make sure your date feels
Find something nice about your date and compliment her
or him. And when you say it, be sincere. Don’t just flatter for the sake
of flattery, find something about your date that you truly want to
compliment. This will earn big brownie-points with your date.
Manners and Kindness
Good manners are always in style.
Don’t think you are too cool to say please and thank you. Even if your
date goes poorly, always thank your date for coming out with
Be courteous and attentive to your date. Don’t let your eyes
wander (don’t say you couldn’t help it! You’re an adult, use some
self-control!), and don’t flirt with anyone but your date.
sure you do an equal amount of listening as you do talking. No one likes a
chatter-box who only talks about themselves. You’re both there to learn
about each other. Part of learning is listening.
Habits - Stay Positive
Don't complain on a first date. I don’t care
if you complain all day long. Your first date shouldn’t be one negative
comment after another. Find things that are going well on your date and
point them out.
Don’t drink too much. If you know you get a little
“weird” after a few drinks, exhibit some restraint and don’t drink too
much. You may think you’re charming after a few, but your date will only
see a dribbling fool.
Now for some first date ideas:
- Take a class together
- Ever watch the TV show, “Blind Date?” They do just about everything
under the sun. Watch a few episodes. Get some ideas. Be creative. Have
fun. And don’t forget, ALWAYS BE YOURSELF!