Just LOVE me, like a fat kid loves cake!
Have you ever felt
like that? When I first heard that, it hit me like a ton of bricks. To
be in LOVE like that or to be loved like that would just rule forever.
Is that not what we are all yearning for? Do we not seek out LOVE from
the second we breathe as an infant? We search our parents eyes for
that look of LOVE. We smile because we know it makes them smile with
the LOVE that they feel for us.
To LOVE or not to LOVE? This is
the question we all ponder through out life.
Why do we yearn
to be someones everything? We want nothing more than to feel like the
LOVE of one's life. We spend our lives looking for that special person
that will make our world seem like a dream. We want to feel safe and
secure in our choice of partners. But how do we really know that this
one is "the one" we will LOVE unconditionally forever? How do we
know that this choice of LOVE will not break our heart? How do we know
that this LOVE will LOVE us when the chips are down and we are not
that perfect person that they fell in LOVE with?
Well I hate
to sound like a wet blanket here on a cold night, but nothing is
guaranteed. Life promises us nothing. We make our lives what they are,
right at this moment. In matters of the heart we gamble, and as I have
said before, to give LOVE is to risk losing LOVE. That is just another
one of those bleary facts. Like rain storms and snowfalls, we have
no control over anything that nature has given to us. We can only do
our best with what we have. I have spoken before about gifts. Well,
LOVE is a gift when it is given and when it is received. It does not
happen because we say we want it to, or when we like a person and say
"LOVE me". HA. I am sure that almost everyone out there will agree to
that. I am also certain that the word "Stalker" comes from that
notion.
LOVE can be a very scary risk. "Have you ever been in
love? Horrible isn't it! It makes you so vulnerable. It opens you
up, totally exposing your heart only to let someone get inside you
and twist things up so tight, you can barely breathe. You build up
defenses, you build an entire suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt
you, then that person, not seeming any different from any other
person, wanders into your lonely life. You give them your heart. They
didn't ask for it. They did something one day, like kiss you or smile
your way, and then your life isn't your own any more. LOVE takes
your heart hostage. LOVE swarms inside you. LOVE devours your entire
being and leaves you crying in the
darkness. With the simple phrase,
"lets just be friends", it turns into a knife, cutting its way into
your heart. The
pain is like no other you have ever felt nor ever want
to
feel again. Not just in your imagination, not just in the mind.
It's like losing a part of who you are, or rather who you were. That
my friends is one reason we are so careful to not make the wrong LOVE
choice. I know reading this totally makes one never want to do that.
But we do, over and over again. Why?
Is it such a deep needed
desire that we really have no
control? Is cupids arrow that strong?
YES on both counts.
LOVE is one of the most powerful sensations we
will ever endure in our lives.
LOVE knows no limit to its
power, no end to its trust, no loss of its hope.
LOVE can
overpower anything.
LOVE stays up, when all else has falls
down.
LOVE is felt when one grasps another's hand.
LOVE is
as much of an object as an obsession. Everybody
wants it and everybody
seeks it, but few ever achieve it. Those who do, will cherish it, get
lost in it, and among all, will never, ever forget it.
LOVE
does not waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead it creates
a perfect love.
LOVE is somewhat like an hourglass, the heart
fills up on one side as the brain empties the other.
LOVE is
admiring ones heart: as admiration is the love of ones mind.
LOVE is with you when you least deserve it, because that's
when you really need it.
These are a few thoughts that I have
that tell me what LOVE is and why LOVE is.
When we're
incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. We must
understand that until we admit that while our partner can add sweet
dimensions to our lives, we alone are the only ones that can bring
that same fulfillment to ourselves. No one is responsible for our
happiness.
Some people fall into a pattern of needing that NEWNESS
LOVE in their relationships. These people will go from one
relationship to another forever, never getting off that roller
coaster of failure. They never understand that LOVE has stages. LOVE
at first is so full of mystery and excitement. Then we move into
becoming comfortable with one another and blending our ways to
continue to strengthen our LOVE for one another. We continue to grow
with each other, adding newness to each other by growing in one world,
but as two people. Our years together build our road to our destiny
of spending our lives and enduring tribulations as one. If you
want life to always be a bed of roses, then you best grow a few
gardens, because the roses will only get there if you grow them or
bring them to your life. In other words sweet people of LOVE, your
LOVE and passion is only what you make it. If you ignore it or get too
busy to feed it, it will die or fade away. It's like any other living
breathing thing. LOVE needs to be treated with respect and treated
like the special gift that it is.
Another thing we must be
careful of is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to
twist them to fit our own image, otherwise LOVE is only the reflection
of ourselves we find in them. LOVE like you mean it, it is the
only true way to let your LOVE for one another grow stronger and
continue to be all powerful and wonderful.
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Relationships ask us to
contemplate "forever" as a way of life.
It is a world without
end of our own creation.
Toni Sciarra
Poynter
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The purpose of life is to
discover your gift.
The work of life is to develop it.
The
meaning of life is to give your gift away.
The gift, is LOVE!
